Slut Shaming: A Continuation…

I recently posted a video on my youtube channel called “Gay Boy Problems: Slut Shaming“, in which I satirically take a look at and discuss the very harmful thing we do as a community; “slut shame“.
By slut shame, I mean calling out people simply for engaging in what is essentially a basic human instinct, and that is sex. It’s a sad fact that we live in a society that puts a negative connotation on this standard thing, and that is across the board between heterosexuals and homosexuals.

Let me be frank. There is nothing wrong with having sex. People seem to think it is a really bad thing to ‘be promiscuous’, but if an individual is single, safe (using protection, e.g. condom / femidom) and they are not hurting anyone (for example, their various partners are also single and not cheating on their boyfriend/girlfriend) then bloody well go for it!
There used to be a time when sex was celebrated, and publicly, I mean, I know we aren’t exactly going to rock up to the Albert Dock and engage in a massive orgy with people cheering us on, as was the case in ancient times. It’s interesting to observe how society has come full circle and become far more conservative over EVERYTHING. Not that I’m saying this should be the norm, as of course there is a thing called public decency, and with children about, there’s a moral responsibility to, not censor them, but allow them to naturally grow and develop. Seeing that on a casual Saturday afternoon when you’re 5 years old might not exactly enhance your childhood, rather scar it.

I realise that by openly admitting this, in a blog and in my video, people are automatically going to assume that I am one of those people who goes around having continuous sex with various partners. This is most definitely not the case (I think my virginity has grown back to be honest :-P), I simply appreciate the simple fact that there is nothing wrong with it, as long as you abide by the three rules I mentioned earlier – you are single, you are safe, and you do not hurt anyone in the process. As a person, I do believe in monogamous relationships, though would never judge others on how they choose to live their life!

We are human beings, we are animals, it is within our nature to engage in impulsive actions that give us pleasure. You enjoy doing something, you do it often, it goes for a great many things, and I don’t mean enjoyment as in just that tingly sensation you get, I mean moments of complete satisfaction and pride within yourself that you like to feel time and time again.

I’m not calling sex a hobby, but it’s like a hobby – you do it because you enjoy doing it, and hey, variety is the spice of life… Apparently.

Some people collect stamps ’cause they ‘enjoy it’.

I find that the people who do casually ‘slut shame’ are those who are very insecure about their own sex life, whether they do not currently have an active one, or they themselves invariably engage in forms of frequent intimacy with different people, and this can be anything from full on ‘doing the deed’, to being a serial kisser in a club. These people don’t like the idea of someone else engaging in this activity, especially if it is someone they are attracted to, or would like to form a relationship with, as they genuinely see that person as ‘tainted’, however, are unable to admit they are equally as tarred with that same brush. I feel it is a form of self justification, feeling like they are worth something, as they are able to gain so much attention from others…
It is an interesting, yet upsetting situation, and if I am even more frank, honest and transparent, one that I have been in; and even then, I hold no grudge against them. I just wish them to be happy.

Words like slutwhore and slag are so demeaning, and whilst many people usually identify and link the labels with women, it is equally damning to men, more notably gay men, who seem to suffer it in the same vain as women.
To insult a person based on rumour, and even if said rumour is true; based on something that is not wrong, is incredibly irresponsible and childish. To thrive on drama that is so pointless and damning to others for no apparent reason says so much about an individual’s own mindset, and it is so upsetting when it is someone you know.

Slut shaming is a bad practice within society.
It is unnecessary, uncalled for and can cause severe issues for those involved, especially when it is simple rumour mongering.
And that is all I have to say on that.

Again, check out my video here….

’til next time.

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